Swinger Couples And Positive Aspects of Swinging

By December 27, 2016Swing Lifestyle Videos

Today John and Jackie discuss the positive aspects of being in a swinging relationship – especially when fear and jealousy creep in.

5 Comments

  • You two are SO great and quite funny! And I know I sound like (read like) a broken record, but it is so very refreshing to read & watch your encouraging, supportive, POSITIVE outlook and guidance on our lifestyle! Bravo you two. BRAVO!

  • Hi again John/Jackie, I’m back. (haha) I’ve been in a good discussion with a couple and we address exactly what you guys were pointing out: the beauty, honesty, and proactive communication that is nurtured in our lifestyle. But there’s a bit more! The environment that these three benefits thrive in is MORE enhanced, MORE amplified by the lack of judgement and the abundance of forgiveness and extraordinary patience by BOTH partners/spouses! And I came up with a great motto describing this relaxed fearless environment…

    Learning together to succeed and fail better!

    Watcha think? (big smile & wink)

  • Eli Rios says:

    As a new couple we have come across instances where we are challenged to overcome our fears together. I really like the part where Jackie admires John for being vulnerable and talking about his fear. I’ll remember these words if a situation occurs in our relationship. Great video!!

  • Carol says:

    So I have to wonder, when you have a woman over at your house, does Jackie know her and hopefully the idea is to all play with her as well? or is it just John’s friend and you don’t mind he bringing her )them) over? we are sort of new in the LS and learning boundaries :=) thanks guys you are a-MAZING and so inspirational! can’t wait for your opening in Houston! we are already anticipating so much fun!!!!

    (and thanks for making it a non smoking environment!)

    • Jackie Melfi says:

      Hello Carol,

      First things first…welcome to the lifestyle! Okay, now to answer your question. Both scenarios have taken place. We have had women over for threesomes and we have had women over to spend time specifically with John. Now don’t misunderstand, this one on one time for John and the other woman is something we would have discussed prior to her coming over. I think we even did a video not long ago where John and I talk about him having a female friend over while I was upstairs writing. John and I also make sure that we each have an opportunity to meet and have some conversation time with our new play partners. That being said though, I also trust John and his judgement. Every single woman he has had an interaction with, I have met. Just like every guy I have seen has met John in some capacity or another, whether a simple handshake or during a dinner date. I think it is also important to understand this is the comfort level of our relationship today. This ease comes as the result of countless interactions with others, and countless recalibrations of our boundaries. Thankfully, we understood enough to know our boundaries were fluid. We took each interchange with others and then we decided what worked and what didn’t based on the situation. This kept the lines of communication open and flowing. This is part of the joy of swinging, this ever present conversation. This wanting to come at the relationship from a compersion base and allow each other the freedom to be their authentic selves. Thank you so much for writing in with such a great question, and we can’t wait to see you in Houston!

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