Swingers Lifestyle and the Subject of Consent

Here at Openlove101 and in colette clubs, we’ve been hearing a lot about consent lately and what that means has really changed over the years. We’re experiencing something different in our environment as the new generation emerges, so let’s discuss what that means in today’s world!

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3 Comments

  • Jack says:

    What a great commentary on the “lifestyle” and interacting with others in general. Unfortunately, we have gotten used to asserting ourselves into situations that seem all too commonplace. To get ahead at work, we assert ourselves to show that we are the right person for the sale or job in general. Being that dominate/bull person has it’s place in business but relationships are not a business, they are personal, loving, sexual and often misused and misinterpreted parts of life that we must continue to value and give their due respect.
    I love the openness of your talks . They can be assimilated into everyday life and everyday relationships that have nothing to do with the swinger lifestyle. Keep it up ! Someday I may even try it.

  • Olga says:

    What do you do if you are actively having sex with a person or people and someone comes up and tries to jump in? Some people have suggested you need to bring a spotter or outside person to protect your space. I am not finding any online advice letting people know that might be necessary in swinger space.

    I come from a BDSM background and am finding that swinger expectations require me to bring my own security. My partner can protect me if I am playing with someone else or in the early stages, but if he is eating me out then not sure how he is going to wave people off.

  • John says:

    Is mere consent good enough? Maybe for the lawyers…. It’ll keep you from getting arrested, sued, or kicked out.

    But this should be comfortable and enjoyable, and that takes more than just consent. It takes enthusiasm. On joining activity in progress, I find that that pretty much only happens with people we already know quite well. I’ve never seen an enthusiastic first encounter that started in the play rooms, not the social areas.

    — J.S.

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