Have you ever felt judged as a swinger?
It can be harsh what people think about you, whether it has to do with the lifestyle, relationships, or anything!
We may or may not be able to change how other people feel about us, but what have YOU decided to feel about yourself?
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John and Jackie Melfi are in a consensually non monogamous marriage. They have been featured in ABC News Nightline Special Report “Getting Naughty In N’awlins”, Inside a New Orleans Swingers Convention, and CNN “This Is Life” with Lisa Ling. The Melfis are the force behind the industry famous colette swingers clubs in New Orleans, Dallas, Houston, and Austin. With over 20 years of combined experience, this powerhouse couple coaches thousands of singles and couples through their award winning blog Openlove101.com.
Great Vlog Jackie and John! Once again, you two have hit it out of the ballpark.
Two of the things I have always found fascinating and at odds with and about these “shaming” tactics by a Puritan society onto our Lifestyle are what Nature actually shows us AND what our national divorce rate glaringly shows us! Hahahaha!
In the animal kingdom, of the roughly 5,000 species of mammals, only 3% to 5% are known to form lifelong pair-bonds! Another way of putting this scientific fact is only 11 or 12 of those species are currently known to be (mostly) monogamous to their mate, i.e. 0.0000004% of Earth’s animal population. Of the closest-linked species to humans, the primates, only a large majority of the Gibbon apes fall in love for life with a rare few “divorcing.” All other primates happily philander and it is socially accepted. And at least fourteen species go outside heterosexual parameters for mating or breeding: humans, lions, whiptail lizards, boa constrictors, stick insects, flatworms, chinstrap penguins, sharks, deep-sea squid, bottlenose dolphins, black swans, Griffon vultures, Japanese macaques, and Bonobo chimpanzees. cha-CHING!
Bottom-line? Love and its kaleidoscope of expression is clearly anything but black and white. LOL (wink) So I guess in reality wouldn’t that make the traditionalist Monogamous the odd ball? Hehehehe
Professor T,
We must be reading the same information! I find the link between monogamy and the animal kingdom fascinating, especially when describing the scientific differences. For instance, genetic monogamy defines those who practice sexual exclusivity. Where as social monogamy, defines those couples who will share a home, children, etc…, but will not necessarily be sexually exclusive. Thanks for sharing such fantastic information.
Well, well, well. What a timely topic. At our July 4th house swinger’s party, we were hit with yet ANOTHER new label… vanilla swingers! Yup, since we’re hetero, and not much into bi, gay, or transgender encounters, we’re now labeled as VANILLA swingers! See, even within our wonderful lifestyle, people want to categorize, label, and file you!!
P.S. Just voted for you in the lifestyle awards… TWICE!