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Going to a lifestyle club is one of the best ways to meet other like-minded people, but don’t make the mistakes that can turn a great night out into a complete DISASTER. John & Jackie Melfi made this guide from their experience as owners and operators of colette lifestyle clubs to help you be as prepared as possible and have a roadmap of what to expect when going to a lifestyle club so that you and your partner can have an incredible time. Whether this will be your first time going, you're new to the lifestyle community, or you're a seasoned pro...

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What Readers Are Saying About John & Jackie 

"Finding someone you can trust to help you navigate the ins and outs of any relationship that you value is a huge decision. John & Jackie are both down-to-earth and real people. Their ability to relate their real world experience carved the path we needed to take our relationship to a level most couples will never experience. If you get the chance… find a way to let this amazing couple open your eyes to what could be if you are willing to be open up and learn." - Matt & Liz

"It’s hard to put into words what the Melfis have done for our marriage. It's not just the improvement in our sex lives that made the impact, it was the communication and shared vulnerability that not only helped our marriage, but freed us to be more confident and open with each other." - Damian & Racquelle

Common Swinger Lifestyle Questions

Since we started openlove101.com in 2015, we have received hundreds of emails and comments from our readers. We have compiled our responses to your most burning questions from couples and singles searching for answers in the lifestyle swinger community. 

Some Things You’ll Learn:

  • How to get you and your partner into the lifestyle if you are brand new to swinging
  • How to have threesomes and moresomes
  • How to deal with "cheating" in the lifestyle
  • What are the rules and guidelines for the swinger lifestyle.
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Online Dating

Want to find open minded couples and singles online from the comfort of your home?

One of the most difficult parts of exploring the swinger lifestyle is finding and meeting like-minded people like you. Of course you can go to a lifestyle club, but then it means having to get dressed up (figuring out what to wear), scheduling the babysitter, coordinating with your partner, and more.

But thanks to modern technology, we don't need to do all that. We use the Neon dating app because it's one of the easiest, fastest, and most convenient ways to meet a lot of open minded couples and singles. Even if you're not quite ready to jump in, you can still browse around and look at the people who are ready to meet you. Best of all, it's FREE. Download now and check it out!

We Made a Lifestyle Club Guide for YOU

We are John & Jackie Melfi and we are the owners of colette lifestyle clubs and Openlove101.com. We have over 20 years of combined experience in open relationships, have coached thousands of couples, and continue to operate our lifestyle clubs every week.  

Based on what we’ve seen (and experienced), we’ve put together a guide so you can know what to expect when going to a lifestyle club for the first time. Or if it's not your first rodeo, we have some expert tips in here for you too.  

I (Jackie) remember my first time going to a “sex” club. Just trying to pick out my outfit for the night triggered so much fear and doubt. 

Could I really pull off wearing something like this? What did this dress say about me? Was I trying too hard? Who am I kidding in these platform heels and this short dress? You’re far to refined and respectable to allow yourself such silly frivolity. Thanks ego!

I really appreciate those self defeating comments. Now I feel dumb. Now I don’t want to go. Now I’m scared of what people will think of me.  

Cue the mini breakdown.  

Thank goodness I had John, such a loving, understanding and patient partner. John stopped what he was doing and reassured me that everything was going to be okay, I didn’t look ridiculous…I looked beautiful and nothing was going to happen that I couldn’t handle.

Looking back on that experience, I wish I’d had some formal guide or checklist I could have followed to help prepare me for the evening. And thus, this is how the lifestyle club guide was born. Now you don't have to make the same mistakes that I did (and many new people do) when they visit a lifestyle club.

Here are some things you'll learn inside the guide:

  • What a lifestyle club is (and isn't)
  • Who goes to a lifestyle club and if it's right for you too
  • All the things you and your partner should talk about BEFORE going
  • What to do in certain scenarios and the logistics of it all
  • The common club rules
  • How to get into a lifestyle club
  • What to wear (dress code)
  • How to get comfortable inside the club and ways to meet others
  • What to do AFTER your club visit (one of my favorites)
  • And more!

And you know the best part?  

You can the Newbie Lifestyle Club Guide for FREE.  

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Get Your FREE Newbie Lifestyle Club Guide

Going to a lifestyle club is one of the best ways to meet other like-minded people, but don’t make the mistakes that can turn a great night out into a complete DISASTER. We made this guide from our experience as owners and operators of colette lifestyle clubs to help you be as prepared as possible so that you can have an amazing time, whether you’ve never been to a lifestyle club before or are a seasoned pro. Get your FREE guide NOW!