You know what they say, “The only thing constant is change.”
And that includes playing with couples in our open marriage. How it started is not how it is today.
How we go about it. What we do while we’re playing. The things we think about. The things we do with our partner. What’s ok and what’s not.
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John and Jackie Melfi are in a consensually non monogamous marriage. They have been featured in ABC News Nightline Special Report “Getting Naughty In N’awlins”, Inside a New Orleans Swingers Convention, and CNN “This Is Life” with Lisa Ling. The Melfis are the force behind the industry famous colette swingers clubs in New Orleans, Dallas, Houston, and Austin. With over 20 years of combined experience, this powerhouse couple coaches thousands of singles and couples through their award winning blog Openlove101.com.
I’m wondering about the “switching back” to your partner…. Doesn’t that risk offending the other couple you’re playing with? I can see that it might work if they needed it, too. Do you discuss it before you go to the play rooms?
Another thing to try, particularly if the other couple has the same divided attention issue, is three on one’s. One person at a time is getting all the attention, the other three are working together to pleasure the one. The one person’s partner advises the other couple as to their partner’s likes and dislikes, like she doesn’t want fingers inside, only outside, etc….
— J.S.
I was wondering If you ever get an answer?
That was a good question!