Do you get nervous going to a swingers club? Do you feel anxiety about being around other couples? Going to a swingers club doesn’t have to be stressful. Instead, it can be a fun and very social environment to hang out with you partner or even as a single. Here’s a glimpse of the social aspect of our experience when we were spending a little time just talking with people.
John and Jackie Melfi are in a consensually non monogamous marriage. They have been featured in ABC News Nightline Special Report “Getting Naughty In N’awlins”, Inside a New Orleans Swingers Convention, and CNN “This Is Life” with Lisa Ling. The Melfis are the force behind the industry famous colette swingers clubs in New Orleans, Dallas, Houston, and Austin. With over 20 years of combined experience, this powerhouse couple coaches thousands of singles and couples through their award winning blog Openlove101.com.
Well of course there’s always a little — or maybe more than a little — anxiety and nervousness the first time you try something new. It could be a swingers club, a skydiving club, a piano competition — you just have to take responsibility for your own comfort, expand your limits, but not by too much.
Even after 25 years, I still have a little tiny anticipatory anxiety before a swing party. Absolutely no way am I ever going sky diving, even though my wife did it when she was in high school.
— J.S.
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I just stumbled up on this video. When my wife and I have attended the Dallas location we have found it very hard to socialize. We feel like we get starred at like we have 8 heads.
It can definitely be a little scary those first few times in a new setting. I know for me, I have to really be conscious of walking up to people I don’t know and introducing myself. I have found though, that more often than not, when I do push past my fear those new couples or singles I meet are glad I took the time to engage in conversation with them.
Hi, newbies here. SORT OF. We dabbled a bit many years ago at a facility that has since closed it’s doors. We are now slowly drifting back. Flirting with the idea.
One question that comes to mind is this; How does one identify someone who may share the same interest if it is somewhat different than most. The club we formerly attended frowned on anything other than Hetero males, wishing to swap wives. Or couples with bi female seeking other bi females. Neither were of interest to us. We are a married M/F couple with bi-male and straight female. Interested in same. We need identifiers. Perhaps secret decoder rings? Haha
What say you?