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Overcoming Fear in Open Relationships

By July 4, 2017 August 14th, 2017 Swing Lifestyle Videos


John tells the story about how Jackie wanted to have a threesome with another man and the fears that came out of that desire.

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  • Lynn says:

    Hi Guys,

    Another great video and topic. Do you guys still routinely, or with some frequency have threesomes? M/M/F or M/F/F either or both?

    …or do you tend to play separately more frequently? I ask, because I wonder if there is some sort of an evolution to the lifestyle, where people get in it to try a threesome, and then find it more comfortable to play separately, or maybe just easier to arrange a one on one, versus a threesome? One final question, did you find that the reality of the threesome lived up to the fantasy you had imagined?

    Thanks again,
    Lynn M.

  • John,

    You are very wise, perceptive, deeply caring, understanding man. When Jackie was continually unsure of how and when she’d be ready for the MFM-threesome, and wasn’t real sure as to why, you took the best, higher road. Bravo to you, BRAVO!


    That hesitancy and fear is understandable, but sometimes frustrating to the other partner/spouse. Nevertheless, no matter HOW frustrating the balking may become, both partners/spouses must keep in mind it is indeed a DUAL-COEXISTING journey. And even though one might be thinking, “No! There are no dragons in these unchartered seas! There’s no such beast!” that green-horn must learn the seas, navigating, and weather at their own pace in their own way. However, on the otherside of that coin… ships can’t be ships and sailors can’t become Captains unless they leave port!

    Once again you two, great stuff!

  • maryann says:

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  • kelly says:

    OK Video BUT I’m sure you had real fears of Bedding two men at once.. How did you handle your fear of Double penetration? or What. The Wive isn’t sure about this she does have Anal sex though
    Do you ever reply to replies ?
    thank you

    • Jackie Melfi says:

      Hi Kelly,

      The basis of my fear really wasn’t in the number of people involved, but more about fears stemming from how the interaction would be for John and I as a couple. In regards to things like DP, since I had my husband as one of the partners, I felt safe and knew that I could stop if I elected. For me what makes swinging so fantastic is the companionship I have with my partner.


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