Hi John and Jackie,
We are intrigued that you have traveled as a threesome.
Can you give us some tips on how to plan and manage traveling as a threesome? We have never done it but are interested.
Thanks,
Threesome Intrigue
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Dear Threesome Intrigue,
First off, and I know this might sound obvious, but make sure everyone is on board with a threesome vacation. I would never suggest “surprising” your partner with another individual where traveling is involved. Once everyone is in agreement, then the fun of planning the trip can begin.
The trip John and I planned with our friend was international for us, but local for her. We decided to spend a week touring her country by car. We set a course that took her to new destinations as well as new and exciting locations for us. John rented a car in addition to booking all the hotel reservations. Since it was just the three of us, John booked suites with a king size bed, giving everyone plenty of room to sleep. He also made sure the rooms came equipped with a sleeper sofa, just in case. Since we considered our friend a guest, we picked up most of the tab for the trip. She did pay a few rounds of gasoline and a few meals, but most of the cost was paid by us.
We had experience with her travel habits and personality, so we knew traveling with this person would be enjoyable, which it was.
It’s important everyone gets along and is friends.
Jackie
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Hi Openlove101,
I’ve been with my partner for 13 years. She recently brought up the question of open relationships and how do I feel about it? I have insecurities over the matter with her. We haven’t had sex as often as we used to and we recently had arguments of her being unfaithful. I need help.
Thank you,
Is An Open Relationship For Us
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Dear AORFU,
Thanks for sharing your story. My first comment would be to tell you that opening up a relationship when the relationship is struggling with other issues won’t make the other issues disappear. No, most of the time it will only increase the issues. It’s necessary to have a firm foundation from which to stand when you are talking about the enormity of opening up a relationship to include others.
A marriage has to have trust, honesty, empathy, transparency, vulnerability, communication, comprehension, compersion (happiness in our partners happiness) honor, and of course love. Open relationships are a beautiful relationship model for those who have strong foundations. I’m not saying your relationship couldn’t open in the future, but it sounds as though there are some more pertinent issues that need to be addressed first.
If you would like to schedule time to speak with John and I you can by accessing our counseling page at:
https://openlove101.com/coaching/
Love,
Jackie
