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Swinger Relationships and ‘Coming Out’ To Your Kids

By February 20, 2018 March 5th, 2018 Swing Lifestyle Videos

In this video, we respond to the question “when and how do we tell our children about our swinger lifestyle?”.

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4 Comments

  • Crystal Campisi says:

    Older kids may not react the way you’d think. Instead of “Dad, why did you wait so long to tell me this? I’m so glad you’re being honest with me””, I got “Mom, why did you tell me that? I really don’t want to know that about you, it makes me uncomfortable.” Now I’m hoping that telling her isn’t going to hurt our future relationship. Some kids just don’t want to know our private business, I guess.

    • Jackie Melfi says:

      When I told my own kids (they were adults mind you) about this consensual non-monogamous lifestyle I had chosen, I was prepared for what I considered two possible responses. I was either going to get love and support or what you received, “Mom! Really?!” Part of what made the reveal important to me was ownership. The ownership of my choice. I wasn’t so much telling them just so they would agree, but more from,

      “I’ve learned something important about relationship options. Enough so, that I feel it relevant to share. I also want you to know that as much as I would love your support and understanding, this decision is about what I feel works best for me. I know this is completely different from anything I ever taught you, so I will totally understand if you need time to digest this news or if you have questions.”

      For me, informing my offspring came more from the standpoint of information. I wasn’t confessing intimate details, I was approaching the lifestyle from a relationship aspect. I talked about the trust, communication, and honesty involved in opening up a partnership. I talked about how all these dynamics worked together to foster a much stronger union with my partner.

      I also wanted my kids to know it’s okay to question the status quo. That they don’t have to follow in line like a group of Lemmings, they could decide for themselves what type of relationship they might want when the time came. I wanted them to know they had options. Did all my kids agree with my relationship option? No. Did they still love and accept me for who I am? Absolutely! Surprisingly enough, my honest approach, has opened the door to countless conversations since my big reveal. My kids all in various stages of their own relationships, feel comfortable in asking both John and I for advice or our opinion. Even though honesty might feel messy, especially when acknowledging something about ourselves, the vulnerability from this honesty has a way of opening all sorts of opportunities for communication.

      • Wendi says:

        Jacki and John,
        Enjoyed your video “Coming Out To Your Kids”. My boys were the first to know that I had found “The Lifestyle”…. Yes… they were adults (19 & 24). They had lived through my 20 year unhappy marriage to their father and had watched me go through unsuccessful relationships after my divorce, so their reaction to my “coming out” was with complete acceptance. In some ways it gave them a deeper understanding of why we got divorced. I don’t get into the sexual details of my amazing adventures with my fabulous fiance, but they know that it works very well for us and they know it makes me happy. In fact, they often ask questions about our parties and trips and friends (have even met a few). Being a “Swinger” might or might not work for them personally as they experience life and relationships, yet I can’t imagine ever not letting them know there are options. XOXO, Wendi

  • maha says:

    A couple of 53-year-old and 46-year-old, very active looking for couples and women moments of great emotion, on the weekend we go to the house on the beach, in Santiago de la Ribera – San Javier – Murcia, we have experience, we travel very much in mobile homes , We are motorcyclists and naturists, we can move and receive at the beach house. We often go to Via de Almeria. Every year we go on a summer vacation with a stroll to Portugal

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