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Open Lifestyle Boundaries: Walking Through Your Fears

By December 24, 2018 January 6th, 2019 Swing Lifestyle Videos

Walking THROUGH my fears? What do you mean? Can we just walk around them or under them or over them?! Sometimes walking into the (perceived) danger of our fears isn’t the most exciting thing to do, but nonetheless it’s the source of growth. In this video, we talk about how we can use boundaries to manage and address our fears so we can eventually overcome them.

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  • john says:

    Guess what — Fear is Fun. That’s why we have monster movies and roller coasters. It’s also like hot sauce and peppers, you have to hit that goldilocks zone, not to little, not too much.

    One of my clearest memories is of a time over twenty years ago at a party when I walked up to a couple. The woman flashed her right breast at me, very quickly, no more than two seconds. Then she blushed all over, bright red. We talked a lot, the three of us, but never did anything beyond that initial flash. After all the years and all the sex I’ve had and seen since, that sticks with me, because she was pushing hard at the far end of her comfort zone.

    — J.S.

  • Angus says:

    Friedrich Nietzsche once said “The true man wants two things: danger and play. For that reason, he wants woman, as the most dangerous plaything.” You can reverse the gender statements and this still rings true for me. After all, this is the 21st century.

    Fear is a primal form of edginess, the stimulant within danger. Fear gets our attention focused and our neuro hormones pulsing. Play is one way we can release the fear and enjoy a sense of amazing relief, well-being, and pleasure…

    In my experience, all forms of open relationships lead back to these ideas. We allow ourselves and our partners to cycle through these amazing emotional and physiological responses, and if we do it wisely and safely, no one gets hurt! I think that was one of the major concepts that kept cropping up in Jackie and John’s recent World Love Summit!

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