We received a wonderful question from a couple that we will be discussing today in our video!
My beautiful wife and I just recently entered into the lifestyle and have been in it for about four months now. We’ve had fantasies for years, but finally took the leap. We’ve only soft swapped twice and both times have been great.
At first, I was the one who was pushing us into the lifestyle. As of recently though, my wife has taken the reins and it’s taking us to new heights.
As her husband, it was fantastic to watch my wife transition into this sexy deviant, but at the same time, I feel internally terrified.
I’ve been the one saying let’s take our time as there’s no need to rush, while she is eager to move forward.
Here I am in the moment of my dreams; something I’ve dreamt about forever… And I have this fear of jealousy and the question of what ifs. I’ve been having emotions I don’t want or need, but have been working through them internally.
My question for you – do you have any advice or techniques to help alleviate self-doubt and stress? Also, is it common for the wife to take the leadership role in the lifestyle?
John and Jackie Melfi are in a consensually non monogamous marriage. They have been featured in ABC News Nightline Special Report “Getting Naughty In N’awlins”, Inside a New Orleans Swingers Convention, and CNN “This Is Life” with Lisa Ling. The Melfis are the force behind the industry famous colette swingers clubs in New Orleans, Dallas, Houston, and Austin. With over 20 years of combined experience, this powerhouse couple coaches thousands of singles and couples through their award winning blog Openlove101.com.