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Ask John & Jackie – Posing Nude And Finding Swinger Couples

By October 4, 2016 August 14th, 2017 Swing Lifestyle Videos

Time to answer our readers’ questions again! And this time we get a fun one for Jackie right off the bat: would you consider posing nude?!

Some other questions we’ll be answering include:

My husband and I are wondering where to begin looking for other couples?

How do I get a non-lifestyle partner interested/initiated into the lifestyle?

Some resources mentioned in the video (where to meet other swinger couples):

Swingers Posing Nude

Swingers Posing Nude

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  • Great questions Followers! Great answers, tips, and suggestions John & Jackie! You guys so easily and intelligently turn potential negatives into positive opportunities! Bravo! Thank you both. Looking forward to more!

    Fears stifles, courage fulfills.

    • Jackie Melfi says:

      Hello Professor T,

      Thank you, thank you! One of the most important tools I have ever learned in life is to view life from a positive vantage point. How can I take what is happening to me and learn from it?! I admit some days I have a harder time doing this than others, but it is still my goal. I see each and every moment of my life as an opportunity to either be a teacher or a student. What can I learn, who can I help! I also try to be conscience of others situations, because more often than not, we have no idea what they are going through, what they have gone through, and what tools they have to help them out of those situations. To be loving is the finish line as far as I’m concerned.


  • Lynn says:

    As always, I think you guys hit right on point with the question about how to get your partner interested… and that Communication is the key, whether in or out of the lifestyle.

    My wife and I have visited the Collette location in Dallas, and we once had a paid SDC membership, but the reality is that my wife liked the “idea” of it, more than actually taking part in it. She has NO interest in other men, though she would be interested in other women… but being uncomfortable with her own self-image is too much of a roadblock to overcome. Our relationship is too important to me to push the issue with her, but I do continue to follow you guys and all the advice you provide.

    I guess I get to live vicariously through your blog and various posts, and I do share these with my wife, which still intrigues her, but not to the point of actually pursuing this. HA! She has a fear that she would be expected to have contact with another man, and that terrifies her, due to some traumatic childhood abuse.

    Anyway… that is TMI I suppose, but I just want to thank you for a great site which is always both entertaining and informative.

    Lynn M.
    Carrollton, TX

    • Jackie Melfi says:

      Hello Lynn,

      Thank you so much for sharing and commenting on this video. I commend your love and respect for your partner.

      I found in my own experience, especially when I was new to the lifestyle, that John’s love and support towards me through my transformation was crucial. He never pushed or became upset when I would change my mind or when I felt an interaction was moving too quickly. He allowed me whatever time I needed in order to adapt to this new and exciting lifestyle. I had a lot of thought patterns I needed to change and reconstruct, when I was first swinging. I saw how all those years and years of instruction growing up had formed how I perceived relationships. I was only given one relationship model growing up, and it definitely wasn’t swinging. Once I was able to really study and be objective was I able to see how beneficial a swinging union could be. But, it still took time and patience from both of us as we navigated our way through this sex positive lifestyle.

      Another important feature I learned by being introduced to the lifestyle was my ability and right to say no. Again, I had grown up in an environment that touted the praises of a woman’s submissiveness, so feeling as though I could say no was a new and empowering tool. This tool also gave me a much better and healthier way to view myself sexually. This revelation enabled me to relax in a club setting, because I knew, I didn’t have to engage with anyone other than my husband if I didn’t want to. I could simply enjoy the erotic atmosphere and focus on enhancing the relationship I have with my husband.

      Keep loving and being there for each other.


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