Join hosts John and Jackie Melfi, the force behind colette Swingers Clubs and the award-winning blog OpenLove101.com, as they discuss common misconceptions about consensual non-monogamy. With over 20 years of combined experience in open relationships and coaching thousands of couples, John and Jackie tackle the judgmental statements and questions they hear repeatedly. In this episode, […]
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How do you set healthy boundaries in a swinger or open relationship? In this video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com share practical advice for navigating boundaries—especially for newcomers exploring the lifestyle. They discuss why observing before participating can be helpful, how boundaries should evolve over time, and the importance of not using them to control
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By Jackie Melfi | OpenLove101 If you’ve ever heard the word “swinger” and immediately pictured a 1970s couple in a shag-carpeted living room wearing gold chains and open shirts—you’re not alone. That’s the image so many of us grew up with, thanks to movies and pop culture. But the truth is, swinging today looks
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By Jackie Melfi | OpenLove101 One of the things I love about traveling to lifestyle resorts like Hedonism 2 in Jamaica is how much you can learn just by observing. People from all over the world come together in one place, bringing with them different perspectives, styles, and expressions of sensuality. On our most recent
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Join hosts John and Jackie Melfi from openlove101.com as they discuss common misconceptions about consensual non-monogamy and the stigmas they face as a swinger couple. In this enlightening conversation, they address the funny and sometimes frustrating questions they receive from “vanilla” friends, from concerns about hitting on partners to fears of association. The Melfis share
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By Jackie Melfi | OpenLove101 Every relationship goes through phases — that early spark of excitement, the curiosity, and eventually, the feeling of being at ease. But how do you really know when you’ve reached that “comfort zone” with your partner? An article from the Daily Mail recently shared what researchers called the top 30
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In this playful and eye-opening episode, John and Jackie dive into the world of fantasy roleplay — a powerful tool for connection, communication, and confidence within relationships. Whether you’re new to consensual non-monogamy or simply looking to spice up your intimacy, roleplay offers a safe, creative space to explore fantasies together. From costumes and card
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By Jackie Melfi | OpenLove101 Open relationships can be incredibly rewarding, but they aren’t without challenges. Just like in any relationship, there are moments when mistakes happen—when a boundary gets crossed, or when one partner feels uncomfortable but struggles to say it out loud. What I’ve learned over the years is that these missteps don’t
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By Jackie Melfi | OpenLove101 When it comes to relationships, opposites attract—or at least that’s what people say. But how does this dynamic work in non-monogamy, especially in the swinging lifestyle where social energy and communication play such a huge role? On a recent episode of the OpenLove101 Podcast, John and I explored this topic
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By Jackie Melfi | OpenLove101 One of the most beautiful aspects of the lifestyle community is the way it continues to evolve. Every year, more people are discovering that love, intimacy, and connection don’t have to fit into one narrow box. And as our community grows, so does the need for safe, inclusive spaces where
Going to a lifestyle club is one of the best ways to meet other like-minded people, but don’t make the mistakes that can turn a great night out into a complete DISASTER!
