Excitement and Anxiety of Being in the Open Lifestyle

The lifestyle can be quite the rollercoaster ride. One day on your elated on cloud nine and really excited about getting into the lifestyle. The next day you have anxiety about whether this was the...

Emotional Attachments in Open Relationships

Your Open Relationship will FAIL Without This

Whatever spectrum of the lifestyle you’re playing at, let’s say everything is sailing smoothly…until… You hit those rough waters. Maybe it’s a playdate that went wrong. Maybe it’s taking a step too far past a...

Establishing Defined Boundaries in Your Open Relationship (Part 2 of 2)

In part 1 of our discussion on boundaries, we talked about the importance and nuances of creating them. In this part 2, we’re going to talk about the transition into re-establishing boundaries. This is where...

Establishing Defined Boundaries in Your Open Relationship (Part 1 of 2)

What’s the big deal about boundaries one might say? Well, it could lead to a disaster in the start of your open relationship before it even begins. Although setting boundaries may seem simple on the...

Swinging Lifestyle and Playing With Someone New

Ever had a time where you weren’t quite “feeling it” with a new play partner? Or maybe the other way around where they weren’t too excited to be with you? So how do we navigate...

Swinging is Fun

We talk a lot about the deep emotional side of swinging – jealousy, fear, etc., so today we’d go the opposite direction and talk about the fun and lighter side of swinging and being in...

Coming Out and Dealing with the Fear of Being Judged

You’re into what?!? You know what you’re doing is wrong, RIGHT? Yes, that could be one of the knee jerk responses you could face if you come out as being in open relationships. Thus, it’s...

Diversity of labels in open lifestyle

At our colette lifestyle clubs, we’re starting to see more and more people with diverse desires (and hence labels) in their open relationship. Many years ago, it was just the term “swinger” and that encompassed...

Is Sex All About Penetration?

We talk about a couple of important things in this video. We started with the popular male topic of what to do if you can’t get or stay hard (we share a few solutions), but...